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Parenting Page Session Seven
Developing new relationships
This week's goal:
To help your children know it's okay to develop new relationships and realize that former relationships may change because of the divorce.
A child's perspective on new relationships is nothing like yours. Divorce takes time to heal from and jumping into a new relationship does not solve the problem, in fact sometimes it can hinder it. Give yourself and your children time to adapt and adjust to a this new life as a single parent home. Take time to heal as a family before you bring someone new into your family relationships. It is important to truly look at this issue and consider your children's point of view and feelings. Help your children develop strong relationships with your ward family, friends and relatives.
One woman said:
“I have been grateful to my home teachers and their wives for going the second mile with us,” one divorced member says. “Their wives call and invite me to ride with them to priesthood parties and special ward functions. They see that my children have escorts to daddy-daughter dates and father-son outings. Occasionally they include us in a family home evening. Sometimes they take my boys on hikes. Their monthly messages are filled with the inspiration and guidance we need to strengthen our lives.”
This week's Scripture focus:
24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Building family strengths:
Building family relationships right now is so important for you and your children. This is a good time to find other families who are single parents and have children the same age to spend time with and do activities with. Continuing to attend church and church functions is important. Help your child to still foster relationships with both grandparents. It's important that children are allowed to have continued contact with extended family even if it may not seem fair to you. They are still part of their heritage and who they are. Encourage contact on holidays and birthdays. This will be a great benefit to your children in helping them build strong and solid family relationships.