3 Tips to Ease the Divorce Transition
By Allison Pescosolido, M.A., and Andra Brosh, Ph.D.
Founders, Divorce Detox
Divorce is one of the most stressful life changes.
Divorce can uproot everything we know, evoke major fears and leave us feeling unsure of ourselves. Divorce can feel like walking around blindly in a pitch-black room, unsure about the next step, leaving us feeling de-centered, frightened, and alone.
Sometimes we can plan for our life transitions because they are predictable and universal, but the harder divorce transitions are unexpected, and seem to come out of nowhere.
Feeling unprepared for life’s curve balls is overwhelming and can lead to depression
and stress. This causes us to forget the benefits of transitions; that they are an opportunity for personal growth, insight, and knowledge. We know what we are capable of when we transition through a challenging time, and we also learn that we can survive things that feel like they will kill us.
Here are 3 few tips that will help you get through your divorce transition:
Many of us forget to treat ourselves with the same understanding and compassion we would show others. Many divorce transitions are painful making it important for you to remember to be kind and gentle with yourself.
Divorce always involves loss, and most divorces require a period of grieving. You may feel this loss greatly, almost as though you were losing a part of yourself.
We often think of grief as a negative experience, but it is actually an essential aspect of moving forward. Give yourself the opportunity to grieve, and consider seeking professional help to ease the process.
Surrounding yourself with supportive, loving people during divorce is essential. Many of us tend to isolate and power through difficult life situations, and forget to reach out to others.
Joining a divorce support group or just calling a friend can be extremely helpful when things feel overwhelming.